Stop Asking Me What School Our Toddler Is Going To.
I’m sat writing this when I have a million other things I should be doing…because I’m annoyed! I told myself that I wouldn’t blog while annoyed…
But…I was asked ‘that’ question again today…”What school will he be going to?”
“We’re going travelling”, I have no problem replying…”We’ll be starting in France for nine months”.
My response is apparently not sufficient.
“Where will he go to school in France?”
“He won’t” I say and explain that we’re both teachers and we’ll be home schooling our three year old.
“Oh well, he’ll still be young enough to fit into school when you get back”
I’ve had this conversation numerous times with numerous people…some even frequently ask the same questions. Some are all too willing to share their views on the ‘home schooled’ others seem unable to comprehend an alternative.
Which part of school exactly do people think we’re depriving our child of!?
Why is not sending our child to school at age 3.5 years so totally unfathomable!?
I’ve spoken before about why we’ve chosen to world school…why it’s best for our family at this time. My intention for sharing my thoughts about the benefits of world schooling wasn’t to try and convince anyone that school is a terrible place that will mess up their kids. It was about telling people that there are other options. But, when someone implies that I’m somehow messing up my child because he’s not going to school…it makes my skin crawl!
Parents who homeschool are unfairly scrutinised…
The kids look scruffy.
They aren’t learning enough.
How will they ever learn to talk to people.
The poor children are judged and doomed to a lifetime of failure…
He won’t get a job if he doesn’t go to school.
She’ll have to learn to sit quietly at some point.
Aren’t home schooled kids always a bit ‘odd’ ?
In my years of working in Education, I’ve met plenty of kids who couldn’t sit still, kids who were a little ‘different’, kids who were rude, kids who were bright, kids who struggled.
Children are children, wherever they learn. They’re different. Not because they’re home schooled or world schooled or unschooled…or schooled.
There is no schooled vs home schooled…no ‘them’ and ‘us’…it’s just learning.
Some kids thrive in school…some don’t.
Many home schooled children do have various ‘issues’. Their parents often chose to de-register them because the school system failed them. They aren’t ‘messed up’ or ‘naughty’ because they’re home schooled. Home schooling is the chance they’ve been given. It will hopefully help them to gain confidence in their own abilities again. To ‘find’ themselves.
Our boys will be who they are because it’s who they are. Not because they’re ‘home schooled’. Although, I do hope that world schooling will help give them the confidence to discover who they are without so many negative peer influences.
So, to anyone concerned, I can assure you that our boys won’t be missing out on anything. They won’t be any less knowledgable, sociable or capable than their schooled peers.
We’ve been teaching our boys since the day they were born and we’ll continue to teach them.
Remember, the way you educate your children is your choice.